Why is it mostly the case that people are quick at criticizing? Correction? I doubt that! If you have ever criticized someone which I know you may have even done more than once, how did it turn out? Were the results desirable? I guess not. I am just trying to get you thinking, to get you to question why you engage in a whole lot of criticizing, sometimes without even thinking. It’s a fact we all do criticize. But before your next criticism, do read this it may make you think twice.
Criticisms are expressions of what is good or bad in either written or spoken, criticisms are mostly done in an attempt to correct. However, some individuals just do so because it makes them feel good. Unfortunately, this is a mere exhibition of emotional sadism. For whatever reason you criticize, just think twice before doing so. I will tell you why you should. Criticisms aren’t actually that bad if done rightly. Most criticisms are done in a state of anger which makes the language of expression extremely harsh and impolite. But if you are criticizing, should your criticism be the cause of somebody’s emotional discomfort, inferiority complex and low self-esteem? I believe you may have come across the phrase “constructive criticism” more than once. Well, I think it’s become nothing but just another cliché added to that rumbling list of the importance things we belittle. If the criticism is not well presented, it will be destructive instead of correcting. One thing is sure, most people who are criticized try to justify their acts and defend themselves because they were criticized and blamed, then we criticize this one by calling it pride. This is our human nature. We are defensive and will not accept our faults when we are approached wrongly.
It is not the words that we utter or the things we do when we criticize people that bring about a lot of unfavorable situations. It is often the effect your words and actions leave behind. That is why it is often said that the tongue has no bones but it is strong enough to break a heart. One of the greatest poets of all time, Maya Angelou is best known for this quotation, ‘people will forget what you said. People will forget what you did. But people will never forget how you made them feel.’ Taking wisdom from this, let us know that even in criticism, having an attitude of appreciation and taking tactical strategies to criticize rightly is wholly essential.
Criticizing may seem all natural and a good way to get someone back on his/her feet, but it in fact isn’t. It does the opposite instead. Criticisms possess the power to instantly kill. Yes, kill. Criticisms can kill initiatives as well as cause people to commit suicide. Some criticisms make one so downtrodden that one feels so useless and worthless, without a good self-esteem suicide seems a reasonable option to consider. Initiatives, good ones can also be destroyed by criticisms from people. Criticizing people’s initiatives doesn’t provide them the needed courage to proceed, eventually killing ideas. Besides, criticizing somebody doesn’t make you any better! Sorry! In human relations, being a critique isn’t a good practice at all. The fact that people are defensive and will do all in their power to protect their image should be enough to tell you that being a critique is no good idea. Criticizing develops hatred between people because friends become like enemies, one blaming and another defending.
“Don’t criticize them; they are just what we would be under similar circumstances”
The whole idea of this article is not to condemn criticisms but to help you become aware of what your criticisms are capable of resulting into. Keep In mind what criticisms can do, it’ll help you to when and how to criticize. For correction, criticism should be done in a gentle manner which will generate awareness in the criticized what he/she did wrong and how the matter can be resolved or should be done next time. I think this approach to criticizing others will create an environment of peace and continuous learning. Instead of condemning people, let’s try to understand them. Let’s try to figure out why they do what they do. That’s a lot more profitable and intriguing than criticism; and it breeds sympathy, tolerance and kindness. “To know all is to forgive all.” Criticisms are not bad and are supposed to help develop one another but if done wrongly the reverse is true. So next time you want to criticize, don’t forget to think twice and do so constructively.
“God himself, sir, does not propose to judge man until the end of his days.”
Why should you and I?